As it’s a new year I thought it would be good to talk about goals and how to make change in one’s life. If you want 2017 to be different then I have compiled a series of steps that may help you to achieve your goals. I have developed these steps based upon my own life experiences and my exploration of yoga and various therapies and self-development tools. If you benefit from this then I am pleased and if it doesn’t resonate with you then no problem.
The 6 steps below can be considered a ROAD MAP which can help guide you through the difficulties and pitfalls that arise when it comes to making change in your life whether that’s on a physical, emotional or mental level. It’s important to remember that each of us is totally unique and we need to find the path and method that works for us, this is the path that leads us to finding our true potential and our own TRUTH.
Are you finding in your life there are things that are not serving you well such as destructive habits, or how you react to certain people or situations, or maybe there is something related to your physical appearance or health that you want to change, or maybe you experience chronic conditions or pain? Is it something that is holding you back from achieving your true potential, a limiting belief perhaps? Nearly all things in our life can be changed BUT it requires us to understand more about ourselves and how we “tick”. You may say “ooh but if it wasn’t for this situation, or this person, or this injury I would feel better…” but really things will only change when we can make change within us – it’s our relationship with our self that is at the key component.
ROADMAP to change
- Identify the issue that you wish to change. During the Christmas festive season, we can tend to over-indulge in food, drinking and socializing. Over indulgences can also be associated with our “vices” or addictions such as coffee, alcohol, sugar, food, cigarettes, drugs and sex. Some common examples are; I’m overweight, I have a lot of anger towards others, I get very frustrated or angry when …………..(fill in blank) happens. I react in a way that is not who I am. I find I am addicted to ……..(fill in blank). I hate my job, I don’t have any money etc etc.
- Set your goal / intention. In yoga this is known as a Sankalpa which is a resolve that is mentally repeated during relaxation or when the mind is quite. It is a way to harness the mental energy and move towards a positive goal. For example you can say; I will find a job that is rewarding, I am becoming mentally stronger, I am developing new ways to improve my health, I am a bright and capable person, I have strength etc etc. It is best to use a positive statement rather than one that is about trying to get rid of or negates something. For more information on Sankalpa go to Matts Blog. At this point it is good to set some goals which are is the detailed information and instructions that will get you achieve your overall goals. e.g. an overall intention/sankalpa may have 2 or 3 associated goals so for instance the goal of losing weight should encompase a goal for doing exercise, a goal for nutrition and they may be more. For more information on GOAL setting go to http://www.sravan.com.au/s-m-a-r-t-goals/
- Start a Fulfilling discipline(s). The way to make change is not to solely focus on the identified problem but rather it about introducing something new. Fulfilling disciplines are positive activities that are in-line with your goals and higher intentions and help you to develop physical and mental strength. Fulfilling disciplines are very effective when you are wanting to make change in your life. Examples of Fulfilling Disciplines include; Yoga, exercise, meditation/prayer, volunteering, eating healthy, learning a new musical instrument, helping others, taking dancing lessons etc. Fulfilling disciplines are usually something that requires effort and even hardship but from this great benefit and reward will come. For more information on Fulfilling disciplines go to Matt’s Blog. My overall preferred Fulfilling Discipline is yoga & meditation as it promotes good health and well being and it increases your awareness and understanding of yourself which will greatly help you to reach your goals and your true potential.
- Accept the negative attribute(s) but don’t focus on it. Change is more likely to occur when you can focus on the positives in your life i.e. your good qualities! You may even find it hard to think of something about yourself that you are proud of, or that you are happy with. A good idea is to ask a friend who I’m sure will be able to point out some of your good qualities. In Yoga this is known as Self study or Swadhaya. Take 20 minutes and allow yourself to become calm and find a quite space and then list both your perceived strengths and weaknesses. You may be quite surprised what you learn about yourself. You may find there to be resistance at first but when you can do this regularly you will start to learn more about yourself. When you focus on your strengths more this will send less energy to your weakness and they will diminish in time. Note: This is part of the S.W.A.N practice which is about finding your strengths /weaknesses /ambitions /needs – for more information on this please email Matt.
- Get help or guidance from someone who is trained and who has overcome their own difficulties. There is a plethora of information on the web but one-on-one self-development work is the most powerful. We can have “blind spots” that we can’t see, or sometimes negative or undesirable traits can be hard to shift as they stem from early childhood and parental conditioning. To seek help does not mean you’re a failure, rather it allows you to navigate through the pitfalls and difficulties that are associated with making change and letting go of the old and undesirable traits. Through my experiences I can recommend the following therapies and people; Law of Attraction (abraham-hicks.com), You can heal your life by Louise Hay – a book that has influenced millions of people around the world (http://www.louisehay.com/), Rebirthing and psychotherapy with Michael Adamedes , Awaba Retreat Centre, Central Coast. (http://www.awabaspiritualyogaretreat.com.au/, http://michaeladamedes.com/), Somatic psychotherapy and Core Energetics with Leslie Hughes, Tumbi Umbi (http://www.lesleehughes.com.au/), Motivation, making change and relationship issues Tony robins (http://www.unleashthepowerwithin.com.au/, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cl5o2-Q4lBs, ). Attend a yoga retreat or yoga ashram where you can immerse yourself in a positive and supportive environment and where you can disengage from your regular routines and surroundings.
- Be consistent – this is the key to change! Once you have started your work then be consistent with it, don’t chop and change. If you “fall down” at first then get up and start again. Through determination and effort you will make change and you will reach your goals. To help help achieve your goals make them S.M.A.R.T goals. For more information on GOAL setting go to http://www.sravan.com.au/s-m-a-r-t-goals/
If you have any questions on the above or in relation to the therapies and professionals I have mentioned, then please let contact me